Let me know if there is anything I can do... (x410)

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

It's hard to know what to say to someone who has lost a loved one.  It's an awkward situation.  If you have been through it yourself, you know there is nothing you can say that will make any difference, so you just say you're sorry and tell them to let you know if there is anything you can do (we heard this approximately 410 times - i.e. the number of people who came to the receiving and funeral).  If you haven't experienced it, then you try to empathize but usually do a bad job of it.  For example, at Sharon's receiving, a lady (who will remain nameless) came through the line and said she was sorry and then said to me "Well, at least you have him all to yourself now!" (referring to Steven).  Seriously?  I would give my right kidney if it would bring Sharon back.  I didn't know what to say to that comment so Steven and I exchanged a look and then I just kind of nodded.  I would give anything if I could go back to that moment and tell her what I think of her.

Also, people keep commenting on the fact that we had to cut our Vegas vacation short, like that makes it all the worse.  Newsflash:  Las Vegas will always be around.  We can go back whenever we like.  We won't get another chance at those last moments with Sharon.  I mean, yeah, it was disappointing, but we did what we needed to do. 

And comments like "that stinks" don't really do the situation justice.  It more than stinks.

But if I think back on the times before I had lost anyone where someone I knew had, I probably said some stupid things too.

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