a daily routine for working moms.

Tuesday, May 8, 2018

If you don't know already, I work full-time outside of the home doing what I love (graphic design, and product design and development).  I love my babies, but I also love my work life.

However you choose to mom, whether you're a SAHM, a WAHM or WOTH (I think I made that last one up, but it's Work-Outside-The-Home), you're doing the right thing for your family!  I hate when I read comments on message boards or social media that make one group of moms feel inferior to another group.  These "Mommy Wars" are ridiculous - we're all just doing the best we can.

So anyway, a dual income household is a reality for us, as it is for a lot of you out there.  However, working outside of the home means that I have to make the most of every minute we are at home - both in the mornings and in the evenings.  Everyone's routine will look different, but I thought it would be fun to share mine, in case it gives you hope that you, too, can juggle a job, a house, a husband and two kids, and not go totally crazy.

I'm going to start when I get off work, and go through when I leave for work the next day - this is our routine "cycle."

5:00 p.m. Leave work and pick up the girls from daycare.

5:30 p.m. The girls and I arrive home, and I change into athletic clothes and start prepping dinner.

5:45 p.m. S1 arrives home and helps with the girls while I finish up dinner.

6 - 6:15 p.m. Dinner and nurse Baby R

6:15 - 7:00 p.m. Family time
This could be riding bikes in the driveway, swinging on the swingset, going for a walk, playing in the playroom, etc.

7 - 7:30 p.m. Bath time
S1 is in charge of baths while I get everything ready that the girls might need for the next day - outfits laid out, dance bag packed, nap blanket washed.  I also take this opportunity to do a quick pick-up around the house.

7:30 - 8:00 p.m. Bed time routine for S2
Cup of milk, book, 10 minutes on ABC Mouse. S1 handles her bedtime routine, while I get the baby ready for bed.

8 - 8:30 p.m. Bed time routine for Baby R
Nurse/bottle, rocking.  I lay her down no later than 8:30, but I try to push this up if possible. Some nights she's sleepier than others.  During this time, S1 will clean up the kitchen from dinner and prep the baby's bottles for the next day (we have to send clean bottles to daycare every day, labeled with her name and the date both on the bottle and the lid).  He'll also prep the coffee for the next morning.

8:30 - 9:00 p.m. Work out
I'm doing the BodyBoss system, so as soon as Baby R goes down, I put on my tennis shoes (remember, I'm already in athletic clothes) and head down to the basement, where we have a treadmill and everything I need for working out.  Sometimes if I can lay her down earlier and it's still light outside (soooo thankful for summer!!), I'll do a quick walk around the neighborhood on my cardio days.

9 - 9:30 p.m. Shower and get ready for bed, including laying out my clothes for the next day
Depending on how sweaty I got, I'll take a shower. Sometimes I'll skip it if it was mostly a strength workout and I didn't sweat that much.  But taking a shower at night means one less thing to do in the morning, so I usually try to fit it in.

9:30 - 10:30 p.m. TV, chill, whatever
S1 and I will try to watch an episode of something on the DVR (we record all of our shows and then watch them later when we have time).  I'm usually exhausted by 10 p.m., but I try to stay awake for a little while. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.

10:30 p.m. Bed

~The baby will usually/sometimes wake up once in the middle of the night around 3-ish.  We take turns giving her a bottle or I nurse her back to sleep. Lately she's been mostly sleeping through the night, but don't tell her that, we don't want to jinx it!~

6 - 6:15 a.m. Wake up
I've been using the "Bedtime" feature in the clock app on my iPhone and it's just a nicer way to wake up. It tells me when to go to bed at night to get my optimal amount of sleep based on when I want to wake up.  And it's a nice soothing alarm that doesn't wake Baby R since she sleeps in our room.

6:15 - 7:00 a.m. Get ready for the day
While I'm fixing my hair and doing my make-up, I pump.  Pumping right before work means that I don't need to worry about doing it during my workday.  Baby R had a hard time gaining weight on just breastmilk, so she's about 75% formula-fed and 25% breastfed now, and my supply has adjusted accordingly.

7:00 a.m. Baby is up, and usually my hair and make-up are done but I'm still in my pajamas.  I change her diaper and feed her a bottle while S1 finishes getting ready.

7:10 - 7:30 a.m. Wake S2 and get her ready for the day.  Dressed, teeth brushed, hair fixed, shoes on. We trade off on helping S2 and getting the baby dressed.

7:30 a.m. S1 and the girls are out the door, heading for daycare and work.

7:30 - 7:45 a.m. I get dressed, put my jewelry on, grab my breakfast (usually a granola bar), fill up my Yeti cup, pour the breastmilk I pumped into a storage bag and put it in the freezer, make the bed (usually I just straighten the sheets and pull up the duvet, just so it doesn't look like a total mess), and I'm out the door for work!

12 - 1 p.m.  On my lunch break, I run any errands that need to be taken care of: get gas, stop by the post office, do a return, pick up necessities, etc.

What has really helped us establish this routine is setting alarms on my phone.  I have an alarm that goes off at 7 and says "Baths," one that goes off at 7:30 that says "Bed," and one at 8:30 that says "Put the baby down."  S2 knows when she hears the first alarm that it's time to get in the bath and there is no arguing.  Then when she hears the second alarm, she knows it's time to head to bed.  The third alarm is for me because I could sit there holding a sleeping baby all night long, but I have to put her down if I want to get my workout in.

So that's it, our daily routine.  I always think it's fun to peek into people's day-to-day lives.  If you're wondering when the house gets cleaned and the laundry gets done, we mostly save that for the weekends, unless there's some article of clothing that needs to be washed for a specific reason, then we'll fit in a load during the week.  I typically try not to do laundry during the week because we simply don't have time to wash, dry, fold and put away in the evenings.  So the clothes get washed and dried, then sit in the dryer for days until I remember them and by that time they're wrinkly so I turn the dryer back on and promptly forget about them again and on goes the cycle!  I actually spent my last day before going back to work from maternity leave doing all the laundry in the house.  Laundry is so time consuming!  I would rather clean all the toilets every day than do a load of laundry start to finish.  As far as cleaning goes, when I went back to work, I told S1 that I needed help keeping the house clean.  So now we have a lady who comes once a month to do the deep cleaning stuff, and we're both fairly good about keeping the house orderly day-to-day so it never feels out of control.

Do you have any WOTH mom hacks?  Please share!

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